Violence committed in a domestic context is part of what we call the âcycle of domestic violence.â This cycle is put into motion and controlled by the perpetrator. This allows him to maintain his domination over his partner. In a violent intimate relationship, this cycle repeats itself over and over, and exacerbates with time.
Perpetrators fly into a rage, give their partner threatening looks, and fall silent for long periods.
Victims feel anxious, try to lighten the atmosphere, and are careful about what they say and do.
Perpetrators verbally, psychologically, physically, sexually, or economically attack the other person.
Victims feel humiliated, sad, and see the situation as unfair.
Perpetrators make excuses for their behaviour.
Victims try to understand the explanations, help the perpetrator change, doubt their own perceptions, and feel responsible for the situation.
Perpetrators beg for forgiveness and talk about therapy or suicide.
Victims give the perpetrator another chance, offer help, acknowledge the perpetratorâs efforts, and modify their own behaviour.
Source : REGROUPEMENT PROVINCIAL DES MAISONS DâHÃBERGEMENT ET DE TRANSITION POUR FEMMES VICTIMES DE VIOLENCE CONJUGALE. La violence conjugaleâ¦ Câest quoi au
juste?, 1st quarter 2006.