A Checklist for Violent Partners

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Take a few minutes to answer the following questions about your violent behavior. It could be time very well spent.

Whether you engage in such behavior often or only occasionally, it’s still domestic violence.

You have answered yes to 0 of these statements, you should seek support from an organization that deals with domestic abuse, to help put a stop to your violent tendencies. The root of the problem may not lie where you think. So take time to confront your problems—you’ll be a better person for it.

Source: Based on an evaluation questionnaire used by Centre Ex-Equo

Congratulations! You seem to behave respectfully towards your partner.

Be aware that both men and women can exhibit violent behavior in relationships. However, the masculine form is often used to describe violent partners because police statistics show that the majority of them are men.

Verbal and Psychological Violence yes no
I forbid my partner from seeing certain people.
I order her around.
I pick on her for her weaknesses.
I don’t talk to her to get what I want.
I call her all kinds of names.
I always think that other people are responsible for my problems.
I accuse her of provoking me.
I try to get her to pity me, so she will excuse my abusive behavior.
I control everything at home.
I’m jealous and possessive of those I love.
I sometimes use the kids to threaten my partner.
I break things in front of her.
I pound on walls or furniture when she’s around.
I keep track of her comings and goings.
I often disparage her body and criticize her appearance.
Physical Violence yes no
I have pushed my partner.
I have pinned her against the wall.
I have thrown things at her.
I have forced her to stay home.
I have hit her.
I have grabbed her arms.
I have tried to choke her.
I have struck my child.

Sexual Violence yes no
I sometimes force my partner to have sex against her wishes.
I get back at my partner or harass her when she refuses to have sex.
I force her to watch pornographic movies even though I know she doesn’t like to.

Sexual Violence yes no
I control all our spending.
I forbid my partner to buy certain things for herself.
I downplay her financial contribution to the household.

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